Count your loses breathe

Dear sisters and myself at the end of a relationship as you rant about how bad he was and all the nasty names you call him, breathe, inhale, exhale then make a list of all the things you did not do right, yes you are not as holy as you imagine you are in this, it is your fault as much as it is his. Even if your list starts with how foolish could I be, do it name every little fault of his and exaggerate it 100 times but make your list too even if you downplay it to almost 0% influence to the breakup. Its only when we are able to see what we did wrong in relating with others that we can actually grow and avoid making the same mistakes. Then my sisters you will stop feeling like you only attract losers. And by the way losers are not so bad, they may not help us know want we want in a relationship but with them we get to know exactly what we do not want. Have a great day. Whatever you do breath.

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